Fight back against those thoughts convincing you to give up by taking a small step, going just a little bit farther. You’ll be amazed how much you are truly capable of!
The other day, we hit the trail and went on a bike ride to break in my new bike (which I absolutely love!). According to the map, we rode a total of 20 miles!
Well, that’s not entirely true. The map says we rode 19.2 miles, but I rounded up because 20 sounds much more beastly than 19.2. At least it sounds beastly to me since I’ve never ridden more than a few miles at a time.
We were riding directly into a pretty strong headwind for the first 10 miles and it was tough! My thighs were burning and I was really struggling to keep going.
It’s times like these that I remember how I used to respond in similar situations.
Getting Used to Giving Up
As a fat kid, when things were physically challenging (which was, you know, every single day), I gave up.
I didn’t like it when things felt hard and I was just sure that I wouldn’t be able to do it anyways, so I would just throw in the towel early in the game to avoid the both the embarrassment of failure and bringing attention to all of the things I couldn’t do.
I could never see beyond my insecurities in those moments. All I could hear was a booming, You can’t do it so don’t even try.
I let that fear of failure and judgment determine my decisions and every time I did, I taught myself to stay safely in the middle of my teeny tiny comfort zone and I simply avoided all difficult and challenging things.
As a result of those self-defeating thoughts, I never discovered what I was actually capable of.
Just A Little Bit Farther
On the bike ride the other day, when the winds were blowing and my legs were struggling, sure, the thought crossed my mind to ask if we could turn back (and that was within the first mile or two of the ride!). But almost immediately, that thought was replaced by, Just try to go just a little bit farther. You can do that.
And so I did. Again and again. And I kept on going just a little bit farther until 20 miles had passed, by far the farthest I have ever ridden a bike!
It’s amazing how much you are capable of when those little bit farthers add up.
For a girl that spent most of her childhood trying to think up excuses to get out of gym class and fake injuries to get out of walking altogether, those are a pretty big deal!
Yes, my body has slowly gotten slimmer and stronger which makes those things much easier, but my lack of physical strength was not the primary thing holding me back all of this time. It was my thoughts, stopping me before I even had the chance to prove to myself what I could do.
Retrain your brain to take on those challenges head on instead of shying away before you even try.
Going into this week, whatever you are tackling in your life, try to go just a little bit farther. You can do that.