As tempting as it is to try to handle it all by yourself, here are 3 reasons why you absolutely NEED people to walk with you in your weight loss journey.
I am really good at convincing myself that I can do difficult things on my own. Admitting weakness is still tough for me. I want to be seen as the strong, capable, dependable one, not the one who needs to lean on others. Pulling back the curtain to show others the mess I have so carefully kept out of plain sight is not a pleasant thing for me.
I tell myself it’s safer to tackle those hard things on my own because if nobody knows what I’m working on, nobody has to know if I fail.
With every passing year, I realize what I’m missing out on every single time I try to be strong enough on my own. To be human is to need.
We need others – God, family, friends. We need practical help to break out of our old habits and emotional support to keep fighting through the highs and the lows.
Your weight loss journey is a difficult road, one that tempts you to hide in shame.
Don’t do it.
Isolating yourself is one of the most harmful things you can do when you are trying to lose weight.
3 Reasons You Need People in Your Weight Loss Journey
#1 – You become more like the people you spend time with
I have this friend I used to work with and she was an all-out health nut. She ran every single day and drank green smoothies every morning. At that time, I was very much not a runner and not at all interested in throwing anything green into my smoothies. The more we talked about her healthy habits and I just saw them in action, I started softening my resistance against them. By the end of the year, I was running three times a week
The more we talked about her healthy habits and I just saw them in action, I started softening my resistance against them. By the end of the year, I was running three times a week by choice and I actually liked green smoothies.
That friendship held a lot of power! She didn’t force anything on me, it was just her living out those choices, day in and day out, that persuaded me to shift my habits. And I could give you at least 30 more examples of healthy habits I’ve picked up from friends!
Spend time with people who make choices that you look up to. Learn from them. Be open to trying new things.
#2 – They hold you accountable
When I was living in Arizona and working as a sign language interpreter, there were seasons of the year when I had to get up terribly early if I wanted to run. The afternoons were too hot and if I run too close to bedtime, I’m wired all night long, so mornings were the only option. And I am not a morning person, but I knew how good I was feeling running regularly and I didn’t want to lose all of the progress I’d made, so I gathered reinforcements.
I had a friend who is a morning person text me when she woke up. I also had my mom, who was in a different time zone, call me at 4am my time, when she was waking up. It was dark. It was hard. I was tired. But I did it and that felt amazing.
Even if you don’t specifically ask for people in your life to make sure you exercise, drink more water, or eat your vegetables, when you share your goals with them, you are more likely to reach them.
Tell people in your life what you are working on. Ask for help where you need it. Them asking you about your progress from time to time is quite motivating in and of itself!
#3 – They believe in you when you don’t believe in yourself
This piece is vitally important because I guarantee you there will be days on your weight loss journey when you feel like giving up. On days like that, you are not going to feel strong enough or motivated enough to keep it going. There will be times when you are just tired and disheartened and you will want to throw in the towel.
Instead of letting yourself sink into a sea of self-doubt with a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, reach out.
Tell someone when you are struggling. I can’t even count how many times I have fallen into a pit of discouragement ready to give up and then ended up getting back up and pushing on simply because a friend told me, “I know you can do this.”
And you can. On the easy days, on the hard days, on the victorious days, and the gloomy days, you can do this.
Find people who will tell you that regularly. It makes a world of a difference.
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