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It’s common for men to gain weight after they get married, but here is how my husband lost 15 pounds in 3 weeks without exercise (and he still ate ice cream!).
When Adam and I got married in June, we knew there would be some…adjustments.
In Adam’s bachelor days, he tried to avoid going to the grocery store at all costs and was used to living off of fast food hamburgers and fries. I, on the other hand, have always loved having a full pantry to make homemade meals.
Adam was a skinny kid who could eat whatever he wanted growing up and I was an obese kid who has always had to watch what I ate. One small change at a time, I’ve created a healthier way of cooking and eating that helped me lose 100 pounds and now maintain that weight loss, so we came into the marriage with very different diet backgrounds!
One morning when we were dating, I’d made him pancakes and afterward, he started looking for candy because he just, “needed something sweet.” He was the only person I’d ever met who regularly ate breakfast dessert.
When we got back from our honeymoon, Adam stepped on the scale and saw that he weighed 215 pounds. He was pretty discouraged by that since he’s never really had to worry about his weight before, but he also didn’t really know what to do about it.
It’s not like we had an intentional plan going into this. We weren’t on a “diet.” I just cooked the way I always cook with lots of vegetables, lean proteins, and whole grains with some splurges thrown in. He really didn’t exercise at all aside from an evening walk or two with me, but just those changes in his diet resulted in him losing 15 pounds in 3 weeks!
It was actually a 17-pound weight loss, but he’s rounded it down to 15 in his head, so that’s what we’re going with.
If you’re curious about the kinds of things we eat, you can find our weekly meal plans here. I didn’t start recording them until our second week home after our honeymoon so one week of meals wasn’t recorded, but you can find the other two weeks here and here.
I wanted you to hear about his weight loss straight from him. This is my normal way of living so it’s not a big deal for me anymore, but he had to shift from eating lots of sweets and fast food to mostly healthy food, so I interviewed him about his experience.
Here’s his story.
What was your diet like in your bachelor days?
My diet consisted of a lot of eating out.
I hardly ever cooked for myself at all so it was a lot of fast food. Occasionally I had some of the higher end fast food because I would think that would be a lot healthier, but when I did go grocery shopping it was just enough for a few days of sandwiches and chips and drinks.
I had flavored drinks like soda and juice all the time and I had desserts pretty much every meal or whenever I wanted to. I always had a tub of cookie dough in my freezer and I’d grab a spoonful whenever it sounded good…which was a lot.
How many times do you think you ate out on a normal week?
On an average week, I probably ate out breakfast lunch and dinner combined around 10 times a week.
What’s been different in your diet since we’ve been married?
Well, first of all, I’ve probably had more vegetables in the month we’ve been married than I have in the past five years of my life combined, so that’s helped a lot. And, surprisingly, it’s all been really tasty and actually really good!
I’ve had heartier breakfasts – you know, less cereal and a lot more protein.
We’ve only eaten out once in these three weeks, so I’ve had a lot more fresh, home-cooked foods and a lot less processed foods.
I’ve had less dessert, which has been hard, but they weren’t cut out altogether. I still splurge, it’s just not every meal anymore, and when we have dessert, it’s really good. We’ve still had triple chocolate brownie ice cream, cupcakes, popsicles, and cookies in the last few weeks.
And I still have to have flavored drinks, but I know I don’t “have” to have flavored drinks and I drink a lot less soda and juice. I drink iced tea almost every day and I do drink a lot more water now.
Has eating healthier left you feeling hungry? Do you feel like you’ve been deprived of eating good food?
I have definitely not felt like I’m not getting enough food. I have been completely full after every meal and it’s been really good food. These aren’t small portions at all, it’s just healthy portions of healthy food and it’s been really good and satisfying to eat that way.
I have not been deprived of good food at all. I mean, we have had really good ribs and homemade pizza and lots of meat for my manly meat cravings and nicely seasoned vegetables and stuff. We’ve had just an assortment of all sorts of food. Nothing has been bland or boring or tasted really “healthy.”
I do feel a little deprived when it comes to desserts. On my own, I had sweets a lot and it is hard not to have them as often now. It’s hard to cut back on those, but like I said, when we do have them, they are really good. I’m just still learning that I don’t have to have dessert at every single meal.
What changes do you think have helped the most in you dropping that weight so fast?
I think definitely eating more vegetables and not getting fast food every single day multiple times like usual have been the biggest things I’ve done that have helped since getting married.
I haven’t even had much chance for exercise yet just dealing with other things in life right now, so exercise hasn’t really been a big part in losing the weight in this in this particular case. Just the change of diet and self-control when it comes to sweets and snacking.
How do you feel these days after losing that weight?
Well, I was definitely excited to lose the weight because I never wanted to be over 200 pounds and so getting back down below 200 was very exciting for me.
I do know that I’ve eaten healthier. I can see it in my face and just my reflection and stuff, so it feels really good that it could happen pretty easily. I mean, it is a big change and I was lucky enough to have Becky cook for me, but it felt really good and exciting.
It is motivating me to lose more weight now to see that it can happen and I didn’t have an increase in physical activity and it has made me feel better physically.
I feel better in my gut. I definitely feel less bloated. I always felt really big even though I may have been 215 or so, at times I just I felt larger. I just felt like there was just a lot of pressure in my gut and stuff, so I definitely feel cleaner in that way and I don’t feel that pressure in that bloated feeling anymore.
I have some shorts that I often wear that were pretty tight and now they definitely fit looser and I have a tighter shirt that I was a bit more conscious about wearing because I did feel a little large, but it fits a lot better now.
What advice would you give to other people wanting to lose weight and feel better?
I am definitely not an expert here. My diet consisted of lots of fast food.
But I am lucky enough to have a wife who enjoys cooking and loves cooking healthy foods but also loves tasty food. So she makes healthy food taste good and we still splurge on desserts and stuff.
I’m definitely eating more vegetables which is a big thing. I used to get fast food salads on occasion, but my main vegetables used to be the lettuce on my burgers. But having vegetables at home is not hard to do and you can make them very flavorful and tasty. Grilled vegetables are one of my favorites and so if you do have trouble, you know, not liking fresh vegetables and stuff, try grilling with some seasoning and that’s really good.
Definitely cut back on the fast food when possible and have more home-cooked meals. They don’t have to be elaborate meals that take a lot of time. They can be simple as long as you have the vegetables. Yes, you can have your chicken and pork and beef. I mean, obviously, these things in moderation, but you don’t have to get rid of any good stuff…you just have to add in some healthy things to your diet.
And just control your appetite some more. It was hard for me and it’s still hard. I could easily get into old habits when I start snacking and just want to grab a face full of chips or cookies instead of one at a time.
I didn’t do this on my own and I was lucky enough to have someone who helped me lose this weight. I didn’t have the motivation to do it for myself. I don’t know what that means for everyone else. If you can find the motivation in yourself or ask someone else for help – whether they want to cook for you or maybe they want to go to the grocery store with you or just give you ideas of what to eat.
It really doesn’t take a lot of overwhelming work to lose weight, especially if you’re going from fast food all the time to good, whole home-cooked food. The weight will actually come off quite quickly, especially at the beginning.
Like I said, I did not have a huge change or exercise regimen. I did not start running or working out more. Those things will definitely help when I do have time to do them, but just the change in diet is a huge factor in weight loss.
I would also say to trust the the food and nutrition science when it says that you know it you know eat foods that are you know the healthy foods that fill you up more so you don’t you know you don’t eat a bunch of junk and then get hungry and want to eat more but you eat foods that are high in protein especially in the morning that is a good time to do that and then you know have the vegetables and stuff so you get your fibers and vitamins and minerals and stuff like that like that stuff is true and it works.
And Becky’s mantra of “one small change” is definitely something that works and is way more doable than making all the huge changes all at once. So if you’re eating fast food every day multiple times like I was, just cut it down to less days at first and then keep slowly cutting it down. Get yourself to the grocery store and stock up on stuff that you can you know prepare. There are easy, quick cooking recipes out there for healthier food and if money is an issue, I know that you can shop for deals. That’s all Becky does is shop for deals and we eat really filling, tasty, healthy food.
It’s doable, it just takes making some changes.
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